Loving Families Saves the Future of Nations

The greatest and most influential organization to exist on the face of the planet happens to be a small and seemingly insignificant group when compared to the empires of the past and august councils of the world.

This organization has existed far longer than any other organization, and it will exist long after many other organizations have floundered and dissolved.

It is universal above the cultural differences of all nations, kindreds, and tongues and changes with cultural ties; yet the protection and safety it provides thrive upon the understanding and conscience of all who hold it dear and sacred.

This organization, interwoven in our religious lives as deities of many faith also abide within the same institution, provides the building blocks of every society in all of its unique forms.

Always, this group is essentially the same in form, consisting of one or more leaders, usually two, and followers who are born to or adopted into it. This ancient sacred and holy group is called family.

Religious notions and dogmas proclaim the family organization for whatever purpose or purposes they support. The family as it is constituted by the majority of the world consists of a husband, a wife, and some children. There are variations to this model but the product or the purpose of the family organization is essentially the same.

In modern Western society, people marry for love and children may come into that union. Marriage to produce families has become a second reason to marry as divorce rates rise because of the indifference of the partners to resolve concerns.

It is fashionable in Western cultures to end relationships and disrupt families due to irreconcilable differences. Because love, shrouded with infatuation, eventually becomes a memory for many marital unions, the partners feel that "spark" of excitement that started the union is the measure of what a lifetime of family should be; therefore, ending the union when those flames of desire diminish or dwindle.

It was not so with the past generations. Marriage was a lifetime commitment for better or for worse. If the flame of desire died, the partners would adjust or work the matter out to rekindle that flame. If there were temper problems, abuse, addictions, or maladies of any kind, women and men were more willing to work out the problems than break the vows of family unity.

In past generations, children were more dear and revered as the continuance of the family line, and great efforts (not all of them of acceptable repute) were taken to ensure that those children grew up in a stable home where two parents, a husband, and a wife lived.

Family adoptions occurred when children were born out of family unions. Children were raised as siblings when youthful mothers were unwise in their choices or savagely bereft of virtue. So seriously considered were the family lines in past times that to the shame of those societies, women were snuffed out and smitten in cruel manners if it were discovered they were not chaste.

Not that those evil and unfortunate practices of "purification" should have a place in today's society by what comes next, but society can learn lessons from the good aspects of the assertive nature of our ancestors regarding family sanctity.

Society should seek to preserve the sanctity of family and the reverence of children above the personal desires of the individual. Modern people teaches the individual is who matters most in relationships evidenced by the frequency and the normalcy of divorce in world culture.

Oppression and mistreatment of women and children have caused a civil world revolt of women who seek opportunities outside of rearing families because of the distasteful acts of their uninspired spouses.

The power, value, and influence of the mother have not received recognition but insult and downplay.

This sacred and noble service of Mother no longer qualifies as a respectable occupation for educated women, though it is the service that mothers provide that shapes the world through the lessons they teach their children in love and patience.

Culturally, especially in Western culture, societal cultures encourage women to work outside the home for fulfillment and leave the rearing of children to strangers and nannies.

With Mother gone, the familial bonds weaken as the children in those unions depend on the care of others, who lack the love a mother has for the success of her children.

Children become a burden rather than a heritage and gift. Motherhood becomes a job performed in between the careers of powerful women of the world==if considered at all.

Men become objectified along with the long-held odious tradition of objectifying women, and families become strange.

Men and women seek to relinquish traditional duties to honor and protect the sacredness of womanhood and debase them in images and videos to gratify personal pleasure and insatiable appetites. Others diminish what a woman is by refusing to acknowledge the biological differences between men and women, claiming even biological men can identify as women.

Socially maladjusted sociopaths grow in maleficence to ravage women because they never received the lessons of self-control or selflessness whether or not their families endeavored to instruct them. Any man or woman who steals the virtue of another person, man or woman, is enshrouded in selfishness.

Men, convinced of the evils of honor and chivalry, abandon gender roles of civil society and expect not to owe the women in their lives and whom they marry support for their service as wives, mothers, sisters, and aunts--further disrespecting the honor of motherhood. This cultural shift adds to the modern failed reconfiguration of the family.

Both men and women seek alternative relationships because of personal preferences, tastes, and appetites, changing the natural evolution of the family intellectually by devaluing traditional relationships and authoring confusion.

Same-gender and trans-gender relationships are based on the personal desire of those involved and not the communal continuation of society at large, though couples in these relationships desire children using adoption or other means to achieve that goal. The family has become a matter of conscience only and is the by-product of a union if the parties within that union decide to keep a consciousness about continuing the relationship.

Let all who read decide to put the children first after marriage. Let all who have children and are in a relationship commit to rear children in a marriage union to produce well-adjusted children if he or she has a companion to do so.

Let men seek to provide for their spouses to remain at home and care for children, respecting their spouses in all regard and providing intellectual stimulation and equal influence for their spouses.

Change the families' budgets and adjust them, if possible, to one income so that children will have parents at home who care for them and find fulfillment in serving their needs--intellectually, financially, custodially, emotionally, and all others.

It is best for a mother and a father married in a committed LOVING relationship to rear children. It is also the order and natural process of human development for heterosexual relationships to dominate. However, parents in homosexual-headed families also must endeavor to seek the best interest of the children by providing as much of a traditional life as possible, with a recommendation to find new partners of the opposite sex to do so. No greater gift will a father ever give to his children than to show them that he loves their mother.

Fathers, love your wives. Wives, love your husbands. Cherish them and honor them. Seek out their best interests and submit to their happiness above your own. Pledge to them your affection, protection, support, and fidelity above others. Use self-control and humility to persuade them to follow your lead and be willing followers yourselves. It is natural and common for men to lead families, but they must do so in righteousness as their families are willing to follow their lead through gentle persuasion--never by compulsion.

Mothers, love your husbands. Husbands, love your wives. Honor them and seek to support them through service and nurturing affection. Be counselors and leaders in righteous behavior so that they may honor you as the highest authorities in this life in confidence and trust. Lighten their burdens by managing the affairs where possible of the homes and providing safe havens from society for them and your children. It is a humbling and hard task, but the blessings of doing so will bring happiness and satisfaction.

These ideas are common for much of the world enough for it to apply to any religious group or non-religious group. As I have sought this pattern of behavior, I can testify that my life has improved, my wife is happier, and my children are better off. Husbands and wives must willingly learn and forgive each other as we travel the road together as equals to overcome this trend of divorce and provide a better society for the next generation. Before the fall of every great civilization, the family failed first.